I’m gearing up to be in my best friends wedding in the Dominican Republic as well as celebrating my 13th wedding anniversary and I’m looking back at our relationship. I’ve had lots of people tell me how lucky I am and how great my husband is….and it’s true. I lucked out and found a great guy…..BUT…(There’s always a BUT) A MARRIAGE TAKES WORK. End of. Period. Bottom Line. Which means fights, compromises, laughs, memories, tears, and more. Sometimes people just look at the outside of a relationship and may not know what’s going on. This is my first marriage and Brian’s 3rd (most don’t know that. Granted the other 2 weren’t even a year a piece) I was young when we married. I’ve made mistakes in our marriage, we’ve had fights, BUT you have to work together. Which to us means. No going to bed mad at each other. A phone call a day when we aren’t together. Even if it’s I miss you and I love you. Letting the other person go crazy every once in awhile. Making memories.
We live in the NOW. Not the past or the future. If he’s having a bad day I try to go out of my way and make him feel loved and special and he does the same for me. He’s better at housework than me, but I’m better in the technical area. We stand together as parents and make the best decisions we can. We travel and do stupid things together just because. We fight and yell, cuss then start dying laughing trying to remember what we were fighting over in the first place. (#1 fight starter: What do you WANT for dinner…I don’t know how about you? X suggests something…Um yuck. I’ll have anything but that)
All of this rambling comes to an actual point. A MARRIAGE TAKES WORK. (WARNING I get sappy here) I’m happy to say that I’m still in love with my husband Brian Reasoner and can’t wait to grow old together with him. Brian thank you for letting me make mistakes, helping me be a better person every day, loving me, and creating this beautiful life we have together. I love you baby.